The most important thing to understand when you're having a relationship and things are not working, things are clashing, is we need to understand that we have a natural tendency to expect other people to be like us. They're not. Other people are other and separate and different than us. They come from a different place. They have a whole different background. And when we go into a relationship, we assume that they're gonna be coming from the same place that we are. And that's just natural; that comes up. It's not, however, the way things are actually set up, and we have to invite the other person. We have to make an effort to discover where they're coming from in order for us to release some of that tension and some of that clash that's happening. So the first thing is to just be aware this person is not from another planet, but almost they are coming from some other place, and it's not fair for us to assume that they're like us. So ask them, invite them, put out there the fact that we don't really know necessarily what they mean or why they're responding. The be curious is the term we use a lot. For me, that feels a little overplayed at this point, but that is it: be curious to how this other person is different and other than ourselves. That ties the knot, that relaxes things, that acknowledges that two people have equal importance in being here, and then from there, have fun discovering where that goes and who the other person is.