How can men communicate to win?
Run time: 02:08
December 13, 2024
Don't be afraid to communicate. That is probably the first thing. I think a lot of men are timid and shy about their communication because they don't want to seem emotional. They don't want to—they want to play it safe and strong, somewhere behind a shell.
You're not gonna win anything; you're not gonna connect with anybody that way. You're not gonna have deeper relationships that way. Communication happens because we're open and we're showing where we are. So don't be afraid of communicating—that's one thing.
When it comes to communicating in romantic ways, and particularly, you know, between men and women, men and women fundamentally communicate differently. So we need to know that what we're saying, what we're communicating, is almost guaranteed to be misunderstood. It's gonna be misinterpreted on their end, and vice versa. When a woman is sharing with us, we're not—we're going to misinterpret what they're saying. We're not gonna understand what they're saying, and that's fine.
I mean, that makes it interesting. That means we've got stuff to figure out. We've got, yeah, we can figure out the translations, yeah, that need to go into it. Make that part of the communication and go, "Okay, did I get you right? I heard you say this. In my boy brain, that means this. Am I hearing that right?"
And you make it almost a playful thing. You're calling out the fact that you're probably not understanding and not getting it right. And when you're doing that, and you're not taking yourself too seriously, you're accepting that you're probably gonna miss it a few times, you know, over and over again.
You make it almost part of the game. She's gonna love that. She's gonna love that you're actually being genuine and honest—that you don't take yourself too seriously—and that you're saying, "Hey, I probably didn't get this right, so please, please help me get it right."
You know, I mean, that shows that you're willing to take your ego, step it down, and say, "Hey, it's more important that I understand you than it is that I maintain some image of being always the best at something."
You're not gonna win anything; you're not gonna connect with anybody that way. You're not gonna have deeper relationships that way. Communication happens because we're open and we're showing where we are. So don't be afraid of communicating—that's one thing.
When it comes to communicating in romantic ways, and particularly, you know, between men and women, men and women fundamentally communicate differently. So we need to know that what we're saying, what we're communicating, is almost guaranteed to be misunderstood. It's gonna be misinterpreted on their end, and vice versa. When a woman is sharing with us, we're not—we're going to misinterpret what they're saying. We're not gonna understand what they're saying, and that's fine.
I mean, that makes it interesting. That means we've got stuff to figure out. We've got, yeah, we can figure out the translations, yeah, that need to go into it. Make that part of the communication and go, "Okay, did I get you right? I heard you say this. In my boy brain, that means this. Am I hearing that right?"
And you make it almost a playful thing. You're calling out the fact that you're probably not understanding and not getting it right. And when you're doing that, and you're not taking yourself too seriously, you're accepting that you're probably gonna miss it a few times, you know, over and over again.
You make it almost part of the game. She's gonna love that. She's gonna love that you're actually being genuine and honest—that you don't take yourself too seriously—and that you're saying, "Hey, I probably didn't get this right, so please, please help me get it right."
You know, I mean, that shows that you're willing to take your ego, step it down, and say, "Hey, it's more important that I understand you than it is that I maintain some image of being always the best at something."