Why do I keep attracting the wrong men?
December 29, 2024
So what's my take on women attracting the wrong partner to them. So that’s tricky. And here I’m partially projecting because I’ve never been in the shoes of a woman dating. I’m not driven by the same sorts of energies and motivations. But from what I can see, a lot of times, we put on to the world, "Well, the world’s giving me this type of person."

The world’s gonna give you all kinds of people—all kinds of people. I’ve seen the same woman attract lots and lots of different types of men to them. The world’s just gonna do that.

It’s your job as an individual to say yes to the people that you wanna be involved with and no to the people that you don’t wanna be involved with.

The attraction is gonna happen just naturally. A lot of different types of men are probably going to hit on you. So it’s up to you to decide what you’re gonna say yes to and what you’re gonna say no to.

And as you have your experiences and you realize, "Okay, these are definitely not the types of men that I wanna be with," you need to reinforce the no's even stronger so that it becomes very clear. And then you also need to maybe open the doors to the yeses—to a different kind of man that you’re not getting involved with.

Ask yourself:

Where am I maybe not inviting that man to approach me?
Where am I maybe not encouraging him to pursue me?
And see if there’s an opportunity there.

The last thing about attracting the wrong type of person is, well, we’re getting involved with those people. There is some kind of chemistry happening there. There’s something fun. There’s a reason that we’re doing it.

And we need to take a look at that and realize, "Okay, well, there’s something that we like here. There’s something fun here."

Identify what those pieces are, become aware of them, and then ask yourself:

How do I have the good elements that I want?
How do I eliminate and say no to the bad elements?
Either within one person’s behavior—"I’m not gonna accept this behavior, but I do like this"—or by dividing out people completely and saying, "No, I’m not going for this. I’m looking for people who have these traits but not these other ones."
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