If you're a guy and you don't feel like you fit the traditional picture of what's attractive, here are some things you can do to make yourself more attractive.

The first thing is confidence. The problem is, confidence is such a huge word, and when you tell someone to “just be more confident,” it encompasses so many different things. To make this more practical, we need to break it down.

A huge part of feeling confident, and ultimately attractive, is taking ownership of your personality. Decide who you are, what excites you, what lights you up—and really own those things. Don’t apologize for them. Apologizing for who you are doesn’t work for anyone. For a man, apologizing for any aspect of who you are naturally deteriorates confidence. Believe in yourself, own yourself, and don’t apologize for who or what you are inside. That’s the first step toward confidence.

When you build on that, once you start owning who you are, you’ll naturally calm down. Your mind, heart, and body will begin to come together. When that alignment happens, you start to feel more at ease with yourself. Without confidence, we tend to rush around or act in ways that make it obvious we’re unsure. That doesn’t feel like confidence—it feels like someone who isn’t sure where they belong. But as your mind slows down and connects with your body, a natural rhythm emerges, almost like the rhythm of your heartbeat.

This rhythm creates a calm, confident presence. It allows you to breathe, listen, and express yourself naturally. When a man is confident, he opens up. He doesn’t remain closed off or guarded. A confident man relaxes, shares, and shows the world the best parts of who he is—the parts he has fully taken ownership of.

The last element is humor, which every woman enjoys. But to be genuinely funny, you need confidence first. Humor comes from connecting with people, and connection requires openness. When you slow down, breathe, and let things flow naturally, you become more attuned to the people around you.

This connection allows you to combine your experiences, imagination, and observations in ways that bring humor to life. Humor isn’t about trying to be funny; it’s about showing your unique way of seeing and relating to the world.

So, if you’re looking to be more attractive, start with confidence. Take ownership of yourself and who you truly are, without apology. Learn to slow down and align your mind with your body, letting things naturally open up. From there, humor and connection will follow. That’s how confidence makes you more attractive.