How do I find my soulmate?
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January 8, 2025
I mean, we're talking about beliefs. You know, when you're talking about the soul, we're talking about stuff that you can't measure, you can't quantify, we can't prove scientifically. So, we're gonna deal with this very, very loosely.
I think when it comes to, I think the idea that people have with a soulmate is: I found somebody that I fit really well with. We have a deep connection. The connection often happens very quickly, and so we feel like there's this big cosmic plan behind it that is causing us to come together and that we should be together.
Maybe that's true, maybe it's not. We really can't prove it one way or another. I think the important thing with a soulmate is to see that we really like having a deep connection and that we really seek having a deep connection with someone. And that's something to pursue in your life—the deep connection.
So, kind of take the picture of a soulmate. Ask yourself not, not "Do I believe in this?" but "What are the traits of having a soulmate that I really wanna nurture and foster in the relationships that I'm having?"
And ask yourself when you're dating: "You know, is this just fun, or does this have some of these traits of what people are talking about when they talk about a soulmate?"
The last thing I would add to that is: a lot of times we think soulmate means there's only one person out there that can possibly fill this place in our life.
Again, personal beliefs—I personally don't feel that that's true, because throughout our lives, we go through some pretty big changes. We are some pretty different people. And from what I've heard, people that are in long-term relationships, there's actually multiple relationships that happen over 20, 30, 40 years.
Is a soulmate somebody that can change and have different relationships with you? I guess so, yeah. But the idea that like we're gonna lock into and have one bond that's going to be there—I think that's a little too rigid.
I think we have to look for, again, the traits of a soulmate that we want, what gives us the deep connection, and then allow ourselves to find and adapt that with somebody else to the way it's gonna nurture us the best.
I think when it comes to, I think the idea that people have with a soulmate is: I found somebody that I fit really well with. We have a deep connection. The connection often happens very quickly, and so we feel like there's this big cosmic plan behind it that is causing us to come together and that we should be together.
Maybe that's true, maybe it's not. We really can't prove it one way or another. I think the important thing with a soulmate is to see that we really like having a deep connection and that we really seek having a deep connection with someone. And that's something to pursue in your life—the deep connection.
So, kind of take the picture of a soulmate. Ask yourself not, not "Do I believe in this?" but "What are the traits of having a soulmate that I really wanna nurture and foster in the relationships that I'm having?"
And ask yourself when you're dating: "You know, is this just fun, or does this have some of these traits of what people are talking about when they talk about a soulmate?"
The last thing I would add to that is: a lot of times we think soulmate means there's only one person out there that can possibly fill this place in our life.
Again, personal beliefs—I personally don't feel that that's true, because throughout our lives, we go through some pretty big changes. We are some pretty different people. And from what I've heard, people that are in long-term relationships, there's actually multiple relationships that happen over 20, 30, 40 years.
Is a soulmate somebody that can change and have different relationships with you? I guess so, yeah. But the idea that like we're gonna lock into and have one bond that's going to be there—I think that's a little too rigid.
I think we have to look for, again, the traits of a soulmate that we want, what gives us the deep connection, and then allow ourselves to find and adapt that with somebody else to the way it's gonna nurture us the best.