It will be a mystery until the end of time. There is no book that any man or woman oy anything, an alien can come down and write a book and it will not help us know what it is that will really make a woman happy and that is actually a good thing. As men, we crave a quest—we need an adventure. If we had a definitive answer to what our girlfriend wants, what would be left to explore? There’d be no more mystery, nothing to develop, nothing to chase after. Without that struggle, there’s no real adventure.

For most men—and people in general—the satisfaction we get from overcoming a challenge far outweighs simply knowing the answer from the start. So, if you don’t have all the answers with your girlfriend right away, that’s okay. It’s not a problem; it’s an opportunity. It’s a chance to continue growing, to learn more about her, and to understand yourself better in the process. Embrace that journey.