The situationships are basically a phenomenon that happens when no one is stepping up and saying what they really want. And do that—say what it is that you really want. You know, ask yourself, "Where do I wanna be going? And is this person involved in where I wanna be going?"

There was a certain natural excitement that happens when we're going somewhere. A situationship is the opposite of that. It's boring, and we're kind of stalled, just staying in the same place. I don't think anyone really wants to be in a situationship that feels like that, okay?

So the way you step out of that is you put yourself out there, and you get authentic, simple, direct, and real with the person and go, "Hey, look, I'm looking for a relationship that's going somewhere. I'm looking for somebody that I can start to build a future with," or whatever it is for you. I'm not trying to tell you what your relationship needs to be, but have some idea where you wanna go with it.

Or if what you want is, "Look, I'm not looking for a relationship. I just want to be dating and meeting lots of people and having fun right now," that's fine, no judgment about that. But make sure the other person knows that.

And whichever direction you're going in, though, step into it fully so that you actually can get some energy out of it, and you can feel like you're becoming more and more alive as time goes on. The situationship, you feel more and more kind of sleep as time goes on, and no one wants to be in a sleepy relationship.

We want all of us to be in a relationship that has life in it. We wanna feel safe about it, but we also wanna feel that there's life in it, and there's some excitement to it.