I'm just gonna speak from the heart here for a minute— that happened because you weren't paying attention. You probably weren't engaged. You were too comfortable. You were getting your needs met, and you were not paying attention to whether or not she was getting her needs met.

Her needs need to be a part of your needs. You need to need her to be happy to be with you. You need her to be excited to be with you. If that isn't one of your needs as a man, your bar is kind of low. I mean, that’s sort of like your bar for sex is basically consent. Point. No.

Because what will happen over a longer relationship is she'll get bored consenting to having sex with you. That's a sad relationship. And the truth is, buddy, if you're in that situation and you've been accepting consent as the standard, you're missing out on a lot more excitement that you could be having in sex, in emotions, in vulnerability, in her being proud that you're her boyfriend.

So, these are all elements that should be happening in a relationship. If you don't see affection coming from your woman, heads up— there might be a problem. If sex is not something that she wants with you, it's not something that she's equally drawn to— again, heads up, there might be something that needs to be addressed.

So yeah, if you're worried or if you've seen relationships suddenly end, it's usually because the man was complacent and he let his standards drop down. Basically, the beast inside went to sleep.

You need to bring that beast back out, continuing perpetually its work, its effort, it’s never done. Do it with yourself first, and continue to do it throughout the relationship. And she'll be stoked. She'll be happy to be in a relationship with you. If you don't go to sleep, eventually she’ll just check out. Yeah.