So when you're on a first date, it's important that you show up making an effort. The way you dress, the way you present yourself, whether or not you're well-groomed—it all matters. If you like to shave, make sure you're shaved. If you prefer being trimmed, do that. Whatever your image is, it's up to you, but the fact that you're putting effort into it is a universally appreciated value.

Someone who just rolled out of bed, didn't put much effort into their appearance, or just spent 10 hours playing video games and then wanders out to a date—that's noticeable. People will feel that. It's showing up without bringing anything to the table.

Make the effort in your presentation—the way you groom yourself, what you're wearing. For example, I like to wear a collared shirt and dress up a little more, but that's not a requirement. Whatever is genuine to you should be what you do, but show a very good version of that. Show the person you're meeting that you've been looking forward to meeting them, that you care about the date, and you want to show them the best version of yourself.

With that, I would say to the extent you can, be rested. When you come to the date, you shouldn't feel worn down or drained. If you do, what do you have to offer at that point? Are you expecting the other person to give you energy? You need to come with an abundance of preparedness and energy. Putting in that effort is something every person appreciates on the other side of the table.

And just to end with this, you probably want her to have made some effort too. She should look good, smell good, and be presentable. If she looks like she hasn't combed her hair in three days, you're probably not going to feel very good about the date. It's a two-way street.