Never do this after you get her number!
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February 12, 2025
Never put all of your focus directly onto this woman now that you have her number.
Before you got her number, you were walking down the street, shopping, doing things, texting with your friends, and thinking about other women that you're interested in. Then boom—this one girl just walks up to you. Well, maybe she doesn't walk up to you, but she appears out of nowhere, and you have the courage to go and talk to her. It works well; she gives you her number.
If you suddenly now make it all about her, that's going to choke you off. That's going to make it so that all the good energy that you had going into this encounter suddenly gets constricted. It gets tight. It becomes limited to the narrow parameters of this one target that you now have.
You need to take that target off. She is not going to like feeling like suddenly she's the sole focus of your life. She doesn't know you at all. She gave you her number; she's open to maybe getting to know you some more. But if you dial in and focus on her like that, that intensity is really going to push her away.
It's going to burden her, and it's going to be way too much. So when you get her number, you need to relax back and continue your normal life. Think about it like this: "Hey, that's great! I got a number. Maybe I'll get two or three more before the day is over." That's the mindset you want to stay in.
When you message her, you're in that same flow. There might be some other women you've met that you're messaging. You don't know if any of them are going to play out or not. That's how you use a number—in a natural flow of things—rather than focusing, dialing in, and putting too much pressure.
Before you got her number, you were walking down the street, shopping, doing things, texting with your friends, and thinking about other women that you're interested in. Then boom—this one girl just walks up to you. Well, maybe she doesn't walk up to you, but she appears out of nowhere, and you have the courage to go and talk to her. It works well; she gives you her number.
If you suddenly now make it all about her, that's going to choke you off. That's going to make it so that all the good energy that you had going into this encounter suddenly gets constricted. It gets tight. It becomes limited to the narrow parameters of this one target that you now have.
You need to take that target off. She is not going to like feeling like suddenly she's the sole focus of your life. She doesn't know you at all. She gave you her number; she's open to maybe getting to know you some more. But if you dial in and focus on her like that, that intensity is really going to push her away.
It's going to burden her, and it's going to be way too much. So when you get her number, you need to relax back and continue your normal life. Think about it like this: "Hey, that's great! I got a number. Maybe I'll get two or three more before the day is over." That's the mindset you want to stay in.
When you message her, you're in that same flow. There might be some other women you've met that you're messaging. You don't know if any of them are going to play out or not. That's how you use a number—in a natural flow of things—rather than focusing, dialing in, and putting too much pressure.