You’re More Attractive Than You Think — Here’s Why!
Run time: 02:13
February 8, 2025
I don't know why, but part of human nature is that we are much more critical about ourselves than we are of other people.
So, our attractiveness—we're going to be a lot pickier. You know, we spend time every morning looking in the mirror and thinking about this or that. Or, you know, we're in the mirror, we're like, "Our gut's hanging out," or not. Or, you know, we see—we're comparing ourselves to these online, social media, and stuff like that.
When we look at other people, we don't do that. We don't have that morning routine or evening routine. We don't live with people all day long the way that we live with ourselves all day long. So when we see somebody else, our criticism of them is usually, you know, pretty modest.
But because we live with ourselves all day long, our criticism is way up here because we're staring at each other in the mirror. We're staring at ourselves in the mirror constantly.
So that's gonna make us think that somehow we're a lot less attractive than other people, which means that we're gonna think we're a lot less attractive than we actually are compared to the way that other people are seeing us.
There's no magic pill to suddenly change that other than to become aware of it and realize, "Wow, my self-image is really critical."
And it's good in some ways because we're working on ourselves. We're not working on other people—that's our job. Our job is to improve ourselves, and when we look at somebody else, our job is not to improve them, so we don't come to the same critical voice that we do with ourselves.
It's good to have the critical voice. It's good to be working. It's good to constantly be progressing. But at the same time, realize that the default mode of staring at ourselves in the mirror all the time, criticizing every little thing that we are or not doing or whatever the outcome is—boy, that is absolutely a whole different lens than the lens that other people are looking at us through.
Other people are seeing us the way we see other people. We're not seeing all the details. We're not seeing all the things that could be. We're just seeing them the way they are. And that's going to lead to a more attractive perception of them than they probably have inside.
So realize that's the way people are seeing you. And to the degree that you can accept how other people might be seeing you, accept what other people are saying, you'll naturally accept that you are probably more attractive than this crazy picture in your brain is leading you to believe.
So, our attractiveness—we're going to be a lot pickier. You know, we spend time every morning looking in the mirror and thinking about this or that. Or, you know, we're in the mirror, we're like, "Our gut's hanging out," or not. Or, you know, we see—we're comparing ourselves to these online, social media, and stuff like that.
When we look at other people, we don't do that. We don't have that morning routine or evening routine. We don't live with people all day long the way that we live with ourselves all day long. So when we see somebody else, our criticism of them is usually, you know, pretty modest.
But because we live with ourselves all day long, our criticism is way up here because we're staring at each other in the mirror. We're staring at ourselves in the mirror constantly.
So that's gonna make us think that somehow we're a lot less attractive than other people, which means that we're gonna think we're a lot less attractive than we actually are compared to the way that other people are seeing us.
There's no magic pill to suddenly change that other than to become aware of it and realize, "Wow, my self-image is really critical."
And it's good in some ways because we're working on ourselves. We're not working on other people—that's our job. Our job is to improve ourselves, and when we look at somebody else, our job is not to improve them, so we don't come to the same critical voice that we do with ourselves.
It's good to have the critical voice. It's good to be working. It's good to constantly be progressing. But at the same time, realize that the default mode of staring at ourselves in the mirror all the time, criticizing every little thing that we are or not doing or whatever the outcome is—boy, that is absolutely a whole different lens than the lens that other people are looking at us through.
Other people are seeing us the way we see other people. We're not seeing all the details. We're not seeing all the things that could be. We're just seeing them the way they are. And that's going to lead to a more attractive perception of them than they probably have inside.
So realize that's the way people are seeing you. And to the degree that you can accept how other people might be seeing you, accept what other people are saying, you'll naturally accept that you are probably more attractive than this crazy picture in your brain is leading you to believe.